What Habits do Highly Effective People have?

The 7 habits of highly effective people is a self-development book written by Stephen R. Covey. This book is written on the basis that we see the world with our perception. To change a given situation we have to change ourself and in order to change ourselves, we must be able to change our perception. Successful people are those individuals who struggled with their inner needs to make healthy relationships.

We all want to be successful in our lives and to be successful in life we have to choose one path to success in life is identifying the habit that will help in our journey. For knowing these 7 habits read till last and share your valuable views on them.

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7 habits of highly Effective People 

People having habits 1st,2nd & 3rd are focused on self-mastery and moving from dependence to independence. People having habits 4th, 5th & 6th are more focused on developing communication skills, teamwork, and collaboration, and people with 7th habit are focused on continuous growth and improvement and also focuses on other habits. Let's start with 7 habits of highly effective people:

1. Be Proactive

We all must be proactive, we as a human being has the power to look at ourselves and examine our character. Reactive people think that everything is going according to their way they have a passive stance. They think that problem is outside and I am good but the problem is their thought. Reactive people feel increasingly victimized and out of the control. Proactive people take the responsibility, they know how to respond to a given situation. 

To be a proactive person we have to focus on the circle of influence that lies in the circle of concern. We must work on the things that we can do about it. Reactive people focus on the circle of concern and not on the circle of influence that blames external factors and generates negative energy.

To check the principle of proactivity challenge yourself:

  • Start speaking the proactive language instead of reactive language
  • Converting reactive task into proactive tasks

2. Begin with the end in mind

Start with a clear destination in your mind. According to the author, we should use our imagination to develop a vision.

Many people find it easy to keep themselves busy to be victorious, for higher salaries, for awards, etc. But we never evaluate the purpose for this busyness, we don't even think if we are focusing so much on these things then how much this thing matters to us.

We should start with the end in mind with a clear destination that makes us sure that we are going in the right direction. Before setting the goals for an individual or for an organization we must identify our values. In this process, we even have to change or rescript our values. Rescripting is the inefficient script that has been written for you. A proactive person changes it with the new ones that are built with their own values. We must also identify our center, whatever is at the center of our life will be the source of security, guidance, power, and wisdom. Our center affects us fundamentally.

3. Put first thing first

To be a highly effective person we should prioritize the most important things first. We must prioritize the discipline daily so that we can prioritize what is important and what is not. In this habit, we go after the goals on a moment-to-moment basis. For maintaining discipline and track the goals we must have the willpower to do something. We should not react according to our desires but we should act according to our values. All the activities can be divided into two factors:

1. Urgent 2. Important

We don't focus on urgent things and waste our time on things that are not important. We neglect the most important things that are very necessary for us. To be effective we should say no to things that are not so important.

  • Identify the activities that are most important
  • Create your own time management matrix
  • Estimating the time how much time to give to which work

4. Think Win-Win

For a good win-win interpersonal relationship, we should be committed to a win-win situation that would be mutually beneficial and satisfying. The author here talks about 6 paradigms of human interaction:

  1. Win-Win
  2. Win-Lose
  3. Lose-Win
  4. Lose-Lose
  5. Win
  6. Win-No deal
If your agreement is not mutually beneficial that is a Win-Win situation for both then that agreement has no meaning. If you solve the win-win situation then it shows your abundance mentality. Many people in the world have a scarcity mentality. 
When it comes to interpersonal leadership, the more genuine our character is, the higher the level of our proactivity is. The more we are committed to a win-win situation the higher our influence power would be. Keep your focus on results and not on people, problems, etc.

5. First Seek to understand and then seek to be understood

Before giving any suggestion to anyone we should understand the perspective of the person first so that we could feel the thing first he is trying to say and then suggest the same. 

Let's take an assumption that a person named Mike went to the doctor and said that I am not able to see properly with my eyes and then the doctor gives his spectacles to him and says that I able to see through it properly and even you can see through it clearly. Mike put on those glasses but it makes the situation worse. How many chances are there that Mike will go back to that doctor?

We all do the same thing while interacting with others. We start giving prescriptions without diagnosing the problem. This habit says that before you understand you have to be understood and that is possible only after you listen completely without interrupting. We must learn to listen, we have to fundamentally change to listen effectively.

Communication experts estimate that:

  • 10% of communication is represented by our words.
  • 30% is represented by our sounds.
  • 60% is represented by our body language.

6. Synergize

Valuing the different perspectives of other persons and making a combination to achieve greater results. We all have the opportunity to create synergy, which allows us to forget old working trends and work with new creativity and open up new opportunities. For using this habit you have to use habits 4 and 5. You must think win-win and understand other's problems and needs. The real essence of synergy is valuing difference, it can be physical, mental, or emotional. We should exercise courage in interdependence situations to be open catalyze creativity and find a solution.

Make a list of people who irritates you, pick up one person and notice him and try to understand his views, now think how they would be feeling. Then you can understand that thing better. If a person doesn't agree with you try to understand the concern why they don't agree with you. If you will understand them better their mind will change.

7. Sharpen the saw

 For being highly effective we have to change ourselves socially, mentally, physically, and spiritually. When we allow the continuous change in ourselves then only we all can practice all the habits in a balance. Habit 7 focuses on the change and is surrounded by all the habits and it enhances its biggest asset that is itself. We have 4 dimensions in our environment and we must practice all these continuously in a much more balanced way.

1. Physical dimension - Focuses on continuous physical improvement for our capacity to work, adapt and enjoy.

  • Eat well
  • Get sufficient rest and relaxation
  • Exercise daily
This develops habit 1 muscles of proactivity

2. Spiritual Dimension - Focuses on renewing our spiritual self to provide leadership of our life, increases our commitment power towards our value system. Do this to change yourself spiritually:
  • Practice daily meditation
  • Communicate with nature
  • Immune yourself with great literature or music
3. Mental Dimension - Focuses on renewing our mental health continuously expanding your mind. 
  • Read good literature
  • Keep a journal of your thoughts
  • Limit watching TV
4. Socially/ Emotional Dimension - Focuses on building a relationship and renew yourself emotionally.
  • Deeply understand other people
  • Contribute to maximum projects
  • Keep abundance mentality
We should focus positively on these 4 dimensions and inspire others to a higher path.
Hope you all would have loved reading this article and will help you in your life. Share your valuable views in the comments below. Thank you.